Self-Pity Gets You Nowhere

Do you ever find yourself (or your teen) stuck in the woes of self-pity?

Quote about self-pity

“Self-pity gets you nowhere. Adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities…”

I love that line so much. I’ve had my fair share of self-pity in my life, and it’s not a place where I enjoy sitting.

I like the spin to take one’s life as an interesting game, making the most of it, our very best.

If you find yourself sitting in self-pity, or you see your teenager in that space, make a list of ways to try to pull out of it.

One of my all-time favorite ways to “forget myself“ is to serve others. Service is a healing balm to the broken heart.

There are ways we can help our teens see their intrinsic worth, and therefore have more confidence in themselves.

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👉How have you been served recently? If you experience feeling self-pity, and how did you pull out of it?

Here was the response by our community:

  • “Sometimes self pity for me comes in the form of perfectionism. I have to remind myself that no one is perfect and progress is greater than perfection. Service also helps!”
  • “I’m thinking the idea of undertaking life as a game would really resonate with teens! Self-pity about being a teen during a pandemic seems pretty understandable, so I’m loving the way this is re-framing the loss of memories and fun into a challenge to find adventure!”

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The Ultimate Virtual Event for Moms
When Your Teen Pulls Away:
The Shift that
Brings them back

Join me for free.

The TRUSTED Lab is a completely free 3-hour live experience to help you finally stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing yourself and your teen differently so trust grows, drama fades, and connection thrives.

Our next event is Monday, April 6, 2026; 12-3 pm Eastern Time.

The Ultimate Virtual Event for Moms
When Your Teen Pulls Away:
The Shift that
Brings them back

Join me for free.

The TRUSTED Lab is a completely free 3-hour live experience to help you finally stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing yourself and your teen differently so trust grows, drama fades, and connection thrives.

Our next event is Monday, April 6, 2026; 12-3 pm Eastern Time.