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Controlling your teenager

Are you a controlling parenting of a teenager? Most don’t like to think of themselves as controlling, but it’s a blind spot many parents have. It’s all done out of LOVE, but also fear. Here are a few thoughts I shared on Instagram at @KristenDukeChats this past week (click to read discussion).Parent control and unmet expectations

Why do parents have an innate desire to control their teenagers?

why parents control teens

Fears can be anxiety inducing…

parent fears can be anxiety inducing

  1. Let go of control by avoiding lectures

Let go of control by avoiding lectures

2. Let go of control by compromising

3. Let go of control by letting them make mistakes

4. Let go of control by allowing for consequences (not punishments)

5. Let go of control by not asking so many questions

To see more details of 2-5, see my instagram post here: Let go of control

This discussion stemmed from a question I made a video short out of, watch it here: or on Instagram (to see discussion comments) here: teen what to wear

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The TRUSTED Lab is a completely free 3-hour live experience to help you finally stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing yourself and your teen differently so trust grows, drama fades, and connection thrives.

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The Ultimate Virtual Event for Moms
When Your Teen Pulls Away:
The Shift that Brings them back

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The TRUSTED Lab is a completely free 3-hour live experience to help you finally stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing yourself and your teen differently so trust grows, drama fades, and connection thrives.

Our next event is Monday, April 6, 2026; 12-3 pm Eastern Time.